In All Honesty..

I know a lot of things. I made this blog for me, to post stories from my everyday life, give my opinions on things and to be used as a reference in the future to remind myself of a certain event or a day in time that I chose to record publicly on what I look at as a public journal or diary. Also I could consider it a scrapbook since the decor is similar but whatever you look at it as, it's mine and only mine so only my opinion is welcome here.

From the beginning I knew that others would have their opinions on things I did and said and things I posted on this site. But I also know that if people don't like reading things then they simply shouldn't read it..simple as that. But for humility's sake they read it so that they have something to criticize or talk about with others. I think differently than a lot of people and see things through my own set of eyes because we all do. Personalities vary and differ from person to person and what may satisfy me or make me happy may make someone else ..well feel the exact opposite and I can't help that and do not welcome anyone to tear down my world and rip my happiness away from me. I WON'T let it happen so just go ahead and try.

I've come to find that a lot of things in life will never go your way and people will never act the way you wish they would. There are a lot of us who wish we could all get along and live in peace and harmony but then again those very same people also know that that will eternally be impossible because there are people who like to live in a world where only their outlook is right and only their feelings matter in any situation. People fail to see the other side of situations and that is sad and sickening. It reminds me of that movie The Blind Side. People have their idea of how others should act or things they should do and fail miserably to see other's thoughts and beliefs on the very same subjects.

Another thing that disgusts me is the fact that people are so quick to lie. It rolls of the tongue so easily you don't even know whether they are lying or not because it's done with such great ease. But I can normally see a liar before they even let the crap they're filled with fall out of their mouth. I know that this is such an extreme difference of my normal cheery and happiness-related posts but it's something that needs to be said because we know that life isn't lived in perfection and none of us are perfect and we are all sinners.

Another point I'd like to bring to the table is the fact that none of us are better than the other...and a quote or a saying or whatever you'd like to refer to it as that I read lately has proved itself to be true is...Going to Church makes you no more of a Christian than standing in a garage makes you a car......You can sit in church from Sunday morning to Saturday night and the man next to you who doesn't even come or rarely shows up may be closer to God than you ever have been or ever will be. Church was made for sinners..not the "perfect" (although we have already established that no one is perfect) and it's the house of God and it's supposed to open it's arms in a welcoming manner (the church AND it's people) to anyone who wants to sit in the pew. It doesn't matter what they look like, what they've done, how they're dressed...what matters is that they are there and want to receive the word of God.

I may be giving my opinions on things on this blog but that does not mean they are totally 100% right. But they are MY opinions and it's my God-given right to have the freedom to say what I want about things, whether you like it or not. And it's your DUTY to listen and not to judge me on what I say, think or do..because your way may not be right either.

All I want in life is to be respected. I try to act my best in any situation when it presents itself to me and I try to be courteous and to handle things privately when it comes to hard feelings and anger. Let me give you a simple equation that I've come to find is so true...


Sad but true. I have no clue what it is and it doesn't seem to be everyone...or maybe everyone at once but it seems to be MY general understanding. I don't know if it's because some kind of competitive atmosphere is created on facebook or if it's because since we see our family more than our long distance friends it causes tension and "too much" time "around" each other and makes our judgement and ability to keep our mouth closed almost impossible but whatever it is..I don't like it at all.

I've found out the hard way that words come over WAY better when spoken as opposed to when typed or read. If you ever have a serious issue to resolve with someone..NEVER..repeat N-E-V-E-R try and explain yourself or any thing for that matter through a typed message/letter/story on myspace/facebook/email or anything else that requires a written text. It will almost always be read as a negative miscommunication and taken disastrously wrong causing something that could've been easily resolved in person to go spiraling out of control and causing worse problems for you and whomever it involves.

Lastly I have to mention that I absolutely dislike two-faced people. And yes, I have a very great idea of what 'two-faced' means..and here is the definition in my opinion:

"Someone who, instead of addressing negative thoughts or comments to the "person's" face either ignores said person or acts like nothing is wrong around said person but once said person is gone...that someone talks about them with others to to one's self in a negative manner...therefore having no intentions of resolving the conflict and making it easier on everyone."

So .. that's gotta be close to what everyone else thinks right?? I feel that honesty is the best policy..but that's too easy for lots of others. If I have something that's bothering me I go straight to the source hoping to find an answer or find a way to work around my thoughts or perception that I had towards a particular subject...and I try my best in a positive way to explain myself but rarely get positive feedback. All I want is to get along with others...not to know they are talking about me behind my back or when I'm not around. I want them to tell me what their problem is with me and to resolve it with me..privately..so that we can get on with our lives. I have a child of my own and a husband and house to keep so I have no time for childish drama in my life and will NOT make room for it.

People are either gonna love me or hate me...there's no grey area...there's no..let's just ignore the problem and move on..because that is nowhere near resolving..it's fueling the fire and making it burn uncontrollably. So if you are going to make yourself my acquaintance or my friend...know this about me...I will not tolerate liars, two-faced backstabbers, mean and selfish soothsayers who will not respect me enough to be honest with me and to respect the way I feel or the things I do. D.T.A-Don't Trust Anyone..(But GOD)

I know who my real friends are..and you know who you are real friend(s). I know who would drop it all and race to my rescue if needed and who would pick up a phone and talk me down from clouds of despair. I know who will forgive and forget when I screw up and who will overlook my imperfections and move on. I know who is mature and who is adult and who will not slander me or find fun in talking about me or anyone else for that matter. Where there's smoke there is fire and I can smell gossip from a mile away. I will always stand up for myself..I won't kiss butt for my or anyone else's pleasure and don't expect any less out of anyone else towards me.

So if you are reading this..and you don't like me or you don't like my blog or opinions or anything else for that matter then one, you shouldn't have made it reading this far..Two, I don't give a flying *censored* what you are saying to yourself or anyone else surrounding you...and three you shouldn't even know how to get to this site because you are not welcome.

I am a good friend. I'm loyal and willing to help anyone who needed it. I am trustworthy and never find pleasure in giving other people pain. I have no time for negativity in my life and no time for people who bring it. So now that I have gotten that off my chest I can breathe and hope that everyone respects me as a person for doing so. ♥ -Me

3 Lovely Reader(s) Said:

Demetria said...

Chin up there girlie!
You are fab. and you are you. you have a beautiful son and husband and you're balancing those roles with your own self identity wonderfully. I've seen many women not half as strong as you are.
I love reading your posts, I love looking at your pictures, I love reading what you think and feel about things.
The only thing that matters is taking care of your boys and yourself. Haters will hate, people will talk.. obviously you're important enough for them to talk about.

so just be you. and to hell with anyone that doesnt like it.

Natalie said...

Thanks so much girlie! I'm glad to hear that I have an avid reader. I made this blog for myself mostly but hoped that others could learn more about me or even benefit from reading things that I generally may not talk about in person or may never come up in real life. I know that some things seem corny to even me but others don't have dignity enough to respect the things I do and interests I have in things.
I am so glad that you love my posts and photos and my thoughts..it makes me believe that there are people out there who care about differences in opinion and most of all what I think as my own individual self.
I try to never let anyone else's negativity tear me down or break my concentration on the more important things in my life, which is my husband and son and getting through our day-by-day way of living...and I will never let anyone change the individual I've come to be, it took me 22 yearts to become the person I am and I'm not changing for anyone's convenience.
So thank you..thank you very much for those uplifting words and thank you even more for keeping up with me. God Bless!

meme said...

I'm not sure if you know me by this name but its ANGIE lol SURPRISE SURPRISE lol
We have really only known each other on facebook but when I met you in person my first impressions were right. You are a very very sweet smart intelligent young lady and I am very honored to be in the same family. Family is all we have in the long run so we should all love one another...... yes sometimes it hard lol believe me I know this from my own life but its worth it in the end. I dont know what has happened and I dont really want to know I just pray that all my loved ones are happy and healthy.
Now Im gunna shut up and stop running off at the mouth.
Love you hun

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